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Guy's New Book "Messed Up" 

In his fourth book, Guy Hammond uses his usual comedic wit, combined with valuable practical advice on how anyone can untangle their messy lives, no matter what they’ve done, to go on and be used by God to accomplish incredible things.

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Thriving Beyond the Margins

So you have the opportunity to study the Scriptures with someone who is same-sex attracted, or who identifies as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. Congratulations. What an honor! In this companion volume to Caring Beyond the Margins, Guy Hammond provides additional studies for individuals with same-sex attractions who are studying the Bible. These studies are designed, not to replace the study series used by your local church, but to complement them and build on them. The workbook has six lessons with discussion questions included.

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Mi Primer Desfile de Orgullo Gay

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16
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17
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"Know What NOT To Say: Part 1

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What Causes Same Sex Attractions? Part 6

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Does It Really Matter? Since there is no definitive explanation of how any male actually develops same-sex attractions...

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What Causes Same Sex Attractions? Part 4

What Causes Same Sex Attractions? Part 4

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What Causes Same-Sex Attractions? Part 2

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23
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"How to Help a Friend Part 2: The First Thing You Need to Do"

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In our previous article we addressed the initial shock you would experience having a friend confess their same sex...

23
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Know What TO Say: Part 2

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"Rejection in the Church: Perception or Reality?"

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Rejection in Jesus' Church: Perception or Reality? Hello everyone. I am a 40 year old single woman who has...

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Christians Like the Rest of us: Four Myths of Homosexuality

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"Is Masturbation REALLY a Sin?"

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Let us begin with some real, gut level honesty Since the inception of Strength in Weakness Ministries, there are...

23
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Dear Brother or Sister, Did you live a homosexual life before you became a Christian? Do you still live...

23
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"HELP! My Roommate is Gay!"

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Of all the things that could happen,...

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"HELP! I've Been Invited to a Gay Wedding: Should I Go?"

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Of all the questions I am asked, this is one of the most frequent. A relative, a friend or...

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Dupont Circle Hotel

by Guy Hammond

I would have rather doused myself in honey and sacrificed myself to a bear than talk about it...

Hardly anyone knew.

I was way too embarrassed and ashamed to talk about it, even to my family and friends. My kids didn’t know, my parents didn’t know, nor did my 3 sisters. My wife did, of course, and a very small handful of my most trusted friends did, but outside of that tiny circle, I simply refused to discuss it. Indeed, even with those few with whom I had entrusted with this incredibly personal and private information, I found it awfully difficult to discuss. Honestly, even the thought of talking about it brought only fear.

No. Dread is a better word.

What was the “it”?

That I used to live a gay life before becoming a Christian and was still homosexually attracted even though I had left that life behind by in 1987. To me, in 2006, at the age of 43, even though I had been blessed with a wife and family and good career, there was nothing that caused me more self-loathing and regret than this reality in my life.  I was in a mental prison, and the key that could unlock that huge cell door was never going to be found, I was sure.

You might imagine then what went through my mind when, out of the blue, Dr. Douglas Jacoby contacted me in the summer of 2006 to ask if I would be willing to speak at an International Teachers Seminar he was hosting in Washington D.C. later that November. The subject; Homosexuality and the Church.

What? You’ve got to be KIDDING ME!

First, how had this man whom I had greatly admired from afar but hardly knew at a personal level found out this tightly held secret?

Secondly, how could he expect that I would be willing to talk about this area of brokenness and weakness in my life to a crowd of people? Upon intense interrogation and to my surprise, I discovered that Mr. Jacoby had no idea of my situation and had asked me for a various number of other reasons. Horrified, I quickly declined and then spent the next day in the fetal position.  With some time to think though, I simply couldn’t escape the idea that maybe more was going on than I first realized. With all the people in the world to ask, how was it that the well-known Christian apologist would have asked me to speak on this delicate subject when he knew nothing of my story? It couldn’t be an accident. The more I considered it, the more I realized that this had to be a 'God thing'.

I had hidden for so many years so I was forced to ask, what exactly I was hiding from? So, I used to be gay and had some same-gender attraction issues. So what! My wife loved me. My kids loved me. I had a few good friends who loved me, and more important than any of that, Jesus loved me. Why did I feel it so necessary to hide that part of my life. Did it really matter what everyone else thought about me? Besides, not allowing myself to be real with my friends and those around me was a lonely existence, and not real. Not only that, but I began to think of all of those other Christians out there who were also same-sex attracted who probably felt as lonely and isolated as I did. What about them? I began to think of it as a “calling” to start reaching out to them, letting them know that they were not alone. Over the next 24 hours I prayed and my heart softened. It was a miracle, but in a short amount of time I went from not even being able to consider ever speaking about my predicament to anyone, to contacting Dr. Jacoby and telling him I would accept his invitation.

The date of the big event was Saturday, November 16, 2006 at the Dupont Circle Hotel. I’ll never forget the night before. I sat in front of my computer with tears streaming down my face as I typed out my lesson, afraid and excited, all at the same time. Was I really about to stand in front of a group of well-respected leaders in the church and “come out of the closet”? I’m not the most proficient public speaker at the best of times. The lesson I gave that day was strained at best. I stumbled and struggled to get the words out, but with the help of God, I did it. It was the  most terrifying and exciting day of my life. When I was finished, I felt like a thousand pounds had been lifted off my shoulders. That long lost key to the prison I had been living in all those years was finally found, and the door was slowly opening. Within a week, my wife and I had decided to tell our kids, our family, our friends. Within another week, we had started a website called “Strength in Weakness.” That was ten years ago, and from those very humble beginnings, God has blessed this work to become so much more than we could have ever imagined, helping thousands in over 60 countries around the world. It’s mind blowing how God worked and maneuvered through my hard, frightened and insecure heart to so quickly bring me to a place of total transparency, allowing our ministry to help so many.

Saturday, November 16, 2006 was a life altering day for me and I wouldn’t go back to my old ways of silence and fear for anything. I’d rather be the star of a documentary called “How far can a person be stretched, and what happens when you go too far?”

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Who Are We

We are a Christian organization that bridges the gap between the Christian community and the LGBTQ community through awareness, education and support.

Strength in Weakness Ministries is currently assisting Christians from hundreds of Christian congregations in countries on every continent the world over. As well, we are teaching Evangelists, Pastors, Church Leaders, Pastoral Care Workers and all Christians how to effectively counsel Christian men and women who are same gender attracted; parents, spouses and siblings how to deal with this challenge in their family relationships, and all Christ followers how to reach out to our gay neighbours for Christ through our workshops.

Contact Us

  Canada
Strength in Weakness Ministries
Attention: Cathy Hammond
PO Box 20041
Orillia, ON L3V 7X9
705-259-3331
 

  United States
Strength in Weakness Ministries
Attention: Cathy Hammond
2220 Meridian Blvd. Suite W6063
Minden, Nevada 89243
705-259-3331

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